Hearth and Home Therapy
Couples Therapy
Online and in-person therapy in Virginia
Is your relationship missing its spark?
From the outside others would think your relationship is good but on the inside you are feeling hundreds of miles of distance between you and your partner. There is something missing and you aren’t sure when that happened. You know you love each other and the day-to-day business of life has caused you to drift from one another.
You can’t remember the last time you talked about something other than “How was your day?”, “What’s going on with the kids?”, “What needs to be done this weekend?”. You know you love each other and it’s feeling more and more like you’re roommates than partners. And you have tried everything to get unstuck from this mundanity and nothing has worked.
You have tried:
Scheduling consistent date nights.
Kissing and hugging more often.
Trying new things together.
Practicing gratitude towards one another.
Romantic gestures.
Focusing on communication.
Prioritizing sex.
It works in the moment but it never lasts.
Imagine a relationship where you feel connected and close
A relationship where you know you are each others person. A relationship where you both are feeling seen, heard, and understood by the other. You know that you are not always going to see eye to eye and that’s ok because you have learned how to find your way back to each other.
This Life is Closer than you realize…
…And we will work together to get you there. When I work with partners, my “client” is your relationship. We walk through each person’s individual experience of what the relationship is to them. Listening to each other’s point of view opens us to empathy. Once we can find common ground it becomes easier to understand that centering the “we” in these conversations can profoundly shift the conversation. I am here to show you that your partner is not the enemy, rather they are meant to be your greatest support. Through utilizing Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy I can bring understanding to the repetitive cycles that happen in all relationships and can impact your ability to feel connected and close to each other.
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is an evidence-based model backed by the science of attachment. Because you are human, alive, and breathing you and your partner(s) have attachment needs, fears, and longings. The way we express these needs it through emotion. When the longings don’t get met this leads us to experiencing pain and fear. In moments of pain or fear we end up communicating in ways that push our loved ones away. Oftentimes leading us to feel. disconnected from the ones that matter most.
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EFCT is a non-blaming, experiential approach that looks at the emotion that fuels your communication. It supports partner(s) to organize and gain clarity of what is happening on the inside of you and be able to share this in a way that your partner(s) can hold it. When we can hold one another we create connection and your connection can flourish.
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EFCT supports the majority of relationship concerns. When I am working with a relationship I support:
Sexual concerns
Premarital
Deepening emotional connection and intimacy
Communication
